It is what it is..

Do you have a phrase that just bugs the crap out of you? My BFF hates the over use of LOL, LMAO, and any other term that hides the way people are actually feeling. I can see her point. Generally, there aren't many things that people say that bother me...until now...

The term "it is what it is" is not a phrase of acceptance, rather one of defeat. I am guilty of using this term myself. I use it when I am weak and have nothing better to say about the current situation. War: it is what it is. Death: it is what it is. Money: it is what it is. Love it is what it is...you get the point.

I'm not sure why this term has all of a sudden started to rub me the wrong way. Perhaps because my expectations of people have changed lately. Maybe I'm ultra sensitive lately, or maybe I just can't stand when I ask the question Why?, to save me from the true answer to the question, somebody throws out the term..it is what it is..

Well, what it is SUCKS! It means there is nothing you can do about it, so accept it and move on. But what if there is something I can do about it? huh? What if there is something I WANT to do about it?

I will no longer accept the fact that it is what it is should mean something. I'm going to at least try to change things that are in my control and let go of the things that aren't....kind of like eating the ice cream in my freezer...totally out of my control to ignore it... and that is what it is! LOL! LMAO! ROFL! smootch Queen... :)

Thoughts to ponder today...